Guys are pathetic. It is so true. We are every bit as sentimental as the ladies, though we exsude much energy to hide this fact. Yet, behind and beneath the countless layers of “toughness,“ you find within us men a disturbing amount of mush. Josh Harris was the first to help me realize I was not alone when he made the confession that he was “in love with love.”
This is not an attempt to reveal a tender side. This is an attempt to reveal that us guys can be down right pathetic. Sure, we might like to think that we are beyond it.
I came across a poem that I wrote about 1 ½ ago, when I was struggling in my contentment with singleness. That was a real turning point in my life where I began to see (largely) my singleness as a gift, and began to find much joy in it. I hope you all appreciate the enormous humility and vulnerability that is taking place to make this point.
Oh love, you dormant friend of mineHidden deep, yet so sublime
When shall you wake and show your face,
Within my heart to take your place?
Yet still you sleep, as well you should,
until the master says 'tis good.'
But on that morn do brightly shine
upon the one who shall be mine.
And at that time with boldness say,
that this is God's appointed day.
In love with love. I would have to say that of all those that I know, no guy has been more guilty of this than my childhood friend and hero, Ben Laughman. The man will make any of us feel like we are as stoic and unmoved as a Russian army. I was able to witness this truth about Ben when he pursued and married my sister. This bearded, carhartt wearing warrior electrician was and and continues to be hopelessly in love with loving my sister. It has been disgusting. I dare not go into details. 2 years after their marriage, with their second child on the way, Ben continues his passionate pursuit of my sister. Sometimes it is a little embarrassing to witness. Yet, the best part has been to see how his love has changed my sister.
Charles Spurgeon wrote of the Christian Marriage:
“Happy woman and happy man! If heaven be found on earth, they have it! At last, the two are so blended, so engrafted on one stem, that their old age presents a lovely attachment, a common sympathy, by which its infirmities are greatly alleviated, and its burdens are transformed into fresh bonds of love. So happy a union of will, sentiment, thought, and heart exists between them, that the two streams of their life have washed a way the dividing bank, and run on as one broad current of united existence till their common joy falls into the ocean of eternal felicity.”
Uh. Happy Valentines?
I loved your poem! Fantastic.
Happy valentines day to you too.
Posted by: Paula | February 09, 2006 at 04:13 PM
Taking my cue from Solo Femininity, Happy National Singles Awareness Day!
Posted by: KB | February 10, 2006 at 10:06 AM
Good post Daniel. I agree; Ben is/was pretty pathetic! It is amazing to see where Providence has all of us right now. (Who would'a thunk it?)
Karl and I really enjoyed getting together at your b-day party. For me, it was vaguely reminiscent of all the times we all stayed up yacking until the morning hours. Maybe you weren't there, but I remember your dad walking in from his night shift at the hospital. He was very gracious, but that was definitely the cue.
Can't wait to see on whom the morn doth brightly shine. Let us know, okay?
Posted by: Alyssa | February 20, 2006 at 12:30 PM
Dan, Thought your poem was really awesome! You seem to have quite a talent in your writing. Enjoyed reading your post, thanks for your humility in sharing. God bless.
Posted by: Skatergrl | February 23, 2006 at 05:15 PM
I thought you said you were going to stop blogging...glad you didnt!
Posted by: angel | February 24, 2006 at 04:28 AM
Your poem (and the rest of your post) brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for posting it.
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